You raise and interesting and complicated question. The Holocaust and the creation of the State of Israel are the two defining events for the Jewish people of the 20th century (and beyond) and as a result their treatment is one of the most sensitive issues in the Jewish community. One can understand easily the impulse to make the link between the Holocaust and creation of the State of Israel. The Holocaust in the clearest terms made the case for a Jewish homeland that would not restrict the immigration of Jews and would stand to defend Jews everywhere. Additionally, the proximity of the Holocaust to the creation of the State of Israel, points to changing global sentiments and sympathies after the Holocaust to the need for a Jewish state. We can see this in the way that each foreign dignitary who visits Israel is brought to Yad Vashem as the first stop on their tour. I think these arguments are powerful and hold great meaning for many Jews and that these arguments have their merit.
I also think that, there are ways to make a meaningful justification of the State of Israel without, to use your words, “overplaying” the Holocaust. Zionists worldwide were hard at work to create a Jewish homeland in Israel well before WWII and the subsequent creation of the State of Israel and the last 63 years are about a lot more than reaction to the Holocaust. I think it is hard to separate the Holocaust from the story entirely, but you can certainly balance it with other components of Israel’s narrative.
As for remembering the Holocaust without connecting it to the creation of the State of Israel, you could do so. However, it seems to me to be a sad omission from the story of the Jewish people. The Holocaust is one of the darkest moments of our history and while nothing can mitigate the tragedy of those events, the creation of the State of Israel, is one of the ways that we have found meaning and purpose as a people since that time.
I think what is most important to keep in mind is that you phrased this question in terms of your own comfort. That means that while you can make decisions about the ways you discuss both Israel and the Holocaust, I hope you will respect the expressions of others who see things differently. There is a great deal to be gained from listening to those who see things differently than you.
Answered by: Rabbi David Levy