Yes, Judaism allows couples struggling with infertility to hire a surrogate mother. There is a complex of rabbinic literature in the last few decades years that flesh out the complicated moral and legal issues surrounding the use of surrogates. For a clear and thorough portrait of such literature and the relevant Jewish issues, I recommend Elliot Dorff’s Matters of Life and Death (chapters 3 and 4). You’ll discover that scholars and rabbinic authorities are divided about the use of a surrogate mother, but, yes, it is permissible.
Some ethical concerns about the use of surrogate mothers include: 1) the dehumanization of a woman. That is to say, a surrogate functions as an incubator and some go so far as to liken it to slavery of women. 2) The social effects of surrogacy accentuate the gap between rich and poor, as the cost is prohibitive to the poor. 3) The fact that only the rich – or mostly the rich – will be able to reproduce through surrogacy because of its cost, it seems to implicitly the idea that the rich have more of a right to reproduce than the poor. 4) This socioeconomic gap that surrogacy implicitly underscores has negative effects upon all of society, including gaps between class and race, wherein a “womb/pregnancy market” is created, wherein white women’s genetic material and surrogacy will command higher fees. And 5) Surrogacy is dangerously close to adultery where the boundaries of the relationship between husband and wife is blurred both figuratively and literally (genetic material of ovum surrogates is not the mother’s).
In 1997, Rabbi Elie Spitz of the Committee of Jewish Laws and Standards (CJLS) convincingly responded to each of these concerns, maintaining through research studies that there is no evidence that degradation of women has been a real problem in surrogacy: that surrogates are generally not poor and that they are free choosing volunteers. He further argues that paying surrogates is acceptable, as taking away payment would unnecessarily remove an important incentive to surrogates that makes it easier for infertile to have the child they so desperately seek.
Couples seeking surrogacy should consider the following guidelines (as derived from the CJLS):
1) Consider the religious and personal concerns involved, receive thorough counseling, and seriously investigate alternatives including adoption.
2) The surrogate herself should be protected from pressure to continue the pregnancy when she judges an abortion to be required to avoid serious threat to her health, and conversely protected from the pressure to abort.
3) The greatest concern must be given to the well-being and rights of the child to be born, and to avoid exploitation of any parties involved.
4) Payment of the surrogate’s expenses is appropriate. There is a debate as to whether there should be payment beyond that: some say she deserves payment beyond expenses to account for intangible risks and burdens, while others say payment beyond incurred expenses is akin to baby-selling.
5) There is a debate as to whether the surrogate mother has a right to challenge custody. Some say she has the right to claim custody of the child and withdraw from the agreement at anytime, whereas others say that the right to custody claim ends after birth. All parties defer to civil law on this matter.
6) The Jewish status of the child follows that of the birthing mother. If the surrogate-birthing mother is not Jewish, the child will require a halakhic (Jewish legal) conversion to be recognized as Jewish.
Answered by: Rabbi Paul Steinberg