Hi. I have been dating a boy 7 months now and we were planning on marrying until we found out that my great grandmother on my father's side's conversion was done wrong which makes the rest of the family down not Jewish on that side. The problem is the boy I am dating is a kohen (Priest, descendant of Aaron). Would an orthodox rabbi marry us? I have very severe heart problems and every time I have to think about not marrying him it stresses me to the point that I have to go to the hospital and receive IV medicine if not worse. What can we do?

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Your concern is well founded. According to traditional Jewish law, as the conversion was not preformed according to halachah/Traditional Jewish law, you are not a Jew. But according to Reform Judaism, a 1983 decision declared that one is a Jew if either parent is Jewish and there be public declarations and rituals that declare one’s Jewish affiliation with the religion and the people. Rabbi Adin Steinsaltz made the most cogent statement when he said that better we define ourselves by the Judaism of our grandchildren. In a post Holocaust world, we define Jews as those who, in a world in which we are a distinct minority, align with the Jewish community in a formal way. To best ameliorate your dilemma, find a Liberal/Progressive Rabbi who will gladly welcome you both under the chuppa, knowing that by your commitment, your grandchildren will be Jewish.