blog | about | contact | origins | help
 
Search Results:

 Questions in Sex in the Marriage
A few months ago, I accidentally discovered that my wife of almost 3 years (the complete love of my life) was having an affair with another man. The circumstances were just horrific. I was just stunned and devastated to learn all this. I had no idea of my wife's frustrations, and no idea she was someone that was even capable of doing such a thing. We have been to regular counseling for months now, and even now my wife is still at a loss to completely explain what happened and how it evolved. Here is my question... Now, 3-4 months removed from the affair, I am still occasionally dealing with hurt and pain that I may never fully get over 100%. Nonetheless, I have forgiven my wife and chosen to stay with her. In spite of what occurred, I do love her tremendously. I do believe she is my beshert/soulmate. I am happiest when I'm with her, and I still see my future with her, and I believe that she feels the same way about me. Tears beyond tears have been cried by both of us, and my wife has expressed an enormous amount of regret, remorse, and an appropriate amount of self-loathing, all of which I judge to be genuine. At times, she has even suggested attending Shabbat services at our local synagogue to atone and ask G-d for forgiveness. For sure, I am not fully over what happened, and I may never be fully over it altogether. Likewise, she may never be able to get over the fact that she committed adultery and betrayed and acted against someone she loves. It is a terrible tragedy in both our lives that can never be undone. But I'm pleased to say that my wife and I are currently in a very good place. We are extremely happy with one another and extremely in love. And ironically, the communication which has resulted since the affair (which should have come prior to the affair) has taken our relationship to an even far better place in so many ways than where I perceived it to be prior to the affair. In short then, I have forgiven my wife. I hope that she can eventually forgive herself. Will G-d do the same? What does Judaism say about this situation?

 Reference Articles
Bibliography- Sex in the Marriage, Y. Brander Supervised by Rabbi Freundel 04/08/2010

 Didn't find your answer? Submit your question to our panel..
LATEST BLOGS  view all blog entries

Searching for God in the Garbage

Posted on 01/21/2018 by Ruti Eastman in Reviews
Searching for God in the Garbage by Bracha GoetzW & B Publishers232 pages; $17.99 on Amazon Bracha Goetz has written a...

Does Morality Trump Religion?

Posted on 01/18/2018 by Moshe Daniel Levine in Beliefs and Practices
God comes to you and tells you to sacrifice your son. Or maybe that was a dream. But you are pretty sure that you were...

The Cringe Worthy Mrs. Maisel

Posted on 01/15/2018 by Rivkah Lambert Adler in Reviews
I didn’t realize there was anything Jewish about The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel before I started watching it. Some friends...

Did Trefa Banquet 2.0 Go Too Far?

Posted on 01/11/2018 by Moshe Daniel Levine in Beliefs and Practices
When it comes to rabbinic literature, there is no dearth of statements that bring out a mixture of confusion, wonderment and...

Watch Something Jewish

Posted on 01/09/2018 by Rivkah Lambert Adler in Reviews
Sarah Lefton, Creative Director of BimBam.com had, by her own admission, a mediocre Jewish education. Part of her...

Exodus: The Story of a Family

Posted on 01/07/2018 by Marcia Goldlist in Beliefs and Practices
Every good story has a beginning, middle and an end. The Biblical book of Exodus is no exception. While most of us know...
JVO Panel  of Scholars
           
 
NOW ADD JVO CONTENT TO
YOUR WEBSITE A FREE SERVICE
 
Click here for instructions to embed the
JVO "JEW Q's" widget on your website.
 
Jewish Values Online | email: info@jewishvaluesonline.org

Home | Search For Answers | Ask A Question | About | Contact Us | OriginsUseful Links | Blog | Help | Site Map

Copyright 2014 all rights reserved. Jewish Values Online
 
N O T I C E
THE VIEWS EXPRESSED IN ANSWERS PROVIDED HEREIN ARE THOSE OF THE INDIVIDUAL JVO PANEL MEMBERS, AND DO NOT
NECESSARILY REFLECT OR REPRESENT THE VIEWS OF THE ORTHODOX, CONSERVATIVE OR REFORM MOVEMENTS, RESPECTIVELY.